The Facebook Effect...

            As if dating weren’t difficult enough we now have things like Facebook to add to the mass variety of things we can judge and be judged for.  The questions you used to ask yourself would include things like, when should I call, where should we go on our date, what should I wear, how long before I sleep with him (depending on your mindset), things of that nature.  Now we throw in how long before I allow him to be my Facebook friend?  This in itself does not seem like such a big deal but OH I beg to differ.  Maybe it’s my over analytical side but letting someone be your friend on Facebook is the equivalent to letting them come into your house and watch you get ready for your date.  They only need to see the end result, not how you got there.  I don’t know about you but my Facebook page is not filled with pictures of my glamorous lifestyle, although I am aware that some people thrive to make their pages seem that way.  Mine is filled with trips to the zoo and theme parks and trick or treating in 40 degree weather, most of these are not my finer moments.  I also have the few random posts from friends from High School/Junior High years and the random drunken bar photos…again not my finer moments!   Isn’t this just my fear of intimacy, my fear of letting someone in? No.  Don’t get me wrong I am aware that all of these things will surface eventually but the question is when?  I think these are things that one should gradually introduce to a potential relationship partner, but on Facebook they are all thrown right out there at once.  Like saying here’s a book of my life look through it and tell me what you think?  If you approve please click the like button.